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Is this crossing the line or what (details)?

Is this crossing the line or what (details)? Topic: How to write a good comment for a brother
June 20, 2019 / By Concordia
Question: I heard a bunch of my coworkers and boss's wife talking about me in a separate room. They were kind of far away but their voices are loud so I could hear them. None of them really liked me because I was a new person. They all though I was weird because I was quiet (although in reality it's just that I didn't want to talk with them and get entangled in their gossips so I just immersed myself in the work to keep busy and avoid having to make conversation when I didn't need to). I heard one of the person say, "She's probably messed up because her brother died." When I heard that I thought of doing things to her that I probably shouldn't write down. That is just how angry I became by her insensitive and ignorant comment. My brother did die a few years ago and that is something that she has no right to make comments about! She didn't even know anything about me-considering we never even had a decent conversation before and here she is basically making a joke out of the worst things that's happened in my life. Was she crossing the line? I'm not wrong for wanting to beat the living daylights out of her am I? I'm not wrong for thinking she's a despicable human being for saying something like that, right? I just want to make sure that I'm not overreacting and that she's the one who is in the wrong. What would you have done in my situation? I keep silent about it, but I always think of bringing it up to her when I get a chance.
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Berry Berry | 7 days ago
Thanks for sharing and I apologize for what you are going through right now. Unfortunately in this world, there are people such as the group you speak about. I want to let you know that you've done nothing wrong and it's okay to feel what you have expressed. You have every right to feel that way. To answer your question, yes, that was uncalled for the girl to make her comments, but as best as possible, try to forgive her, for you do not know what she has experienced in her life and how she grew up. If she was able to say something as disrespectful as she said, she must have been through a lot. So, try seeing her as she really is...someone who is hurting. We all know how hurt feels and as best as possible, try not to add to another person's hurt. Again, you have every right to feel what you feel and it's okay to feel that. But try to see what's truly there. My recommendation for you: The question now isn't about the girl, it's about you. Your happiness is your first and foremost priority in your life. Are you happy where you're working at? If people are not showing you respect and honesty whether it be at work or in a relationship, don't settle until you find your ideal, because you deserve it! Another thing to remember also, no matter where you go, there will always be people like that girl, but if you understand what's truly there, you will find yourself more at peace. Good luck. Cheers.
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Berry Originally Answered: Is this crossing the line or what (details)?
Thanks for sharing and I apologize for what you are going through right now. Unfortunately in this world, there are people such as the group you speak about. I want to let you know that you've done nothing wrong and it's okay to feel what you have expressed. You have every right to feel that way. To answer your question, yes, that was uncalled for the girl to make her comments, but as best as possible, try to forgive her, for you do not know what she has experienced in her life and how she grew up. If she was able to say something as disrespectful as she said, she must have been through a lot. So, try seeing her as she really is...someone who is hurting. We all know how hurt feels and as best as possible, try not to add to another person's hurt. Again, you have every right to feel what you feel and it's okay to feel that. But try to see what's truly there. My recommendation for you: The question now isn't about the girl, it's about you. Your happiness is your first and foremost priority in your life. Are you happy where you're working at? If people are not showing you respect and honesty whether it be at work or in a relationship, don't settle until you find your ideal, because you deserve it! Another thing to remember also, no matter where you go, there will always be people like that girl, but if you understand what's truly there, you will find yourself more at peace. Good luck. Cheers.
Berry Originally Answered: Is this crossing the line or what (details)?
MY Opinion is, you are absolutely human & normal to feel the way you felt! & she was completely out of line for speaking of your loss. It's none of her biz & it just shoulve never been said. It's good you didn't beat her down (although it wouldve felt great), you didn't need any charges anyways. So, continue to stay to yourself (b/c that's honestly the best way to stay out of 'drama') & if she ever says anything to you, then let her know that you didn't appreciate it. Until then, it's always gonna be some1 around that wants to see you doing bad/down, so just keep your spirits up. Good Luck!

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MY Opinion is, you are absolutely human & normal to feel the way you felt! & she was completely out of line for speaking of your loss. It's none of her biz & it just shoulve never been said. It's good you didn't beat her down (although it wouldve felt great), you didn't need any charges anyways. So, continue to stay to yourself (b/c that's honestly the best way to stay out of 'drama') & if she ever says anything to you, then let her know that you didn't appreciate it. Until then, it's always gonna be some1 around that wants to see you doing bad/down, so just keep your spirits up. Good Luck!
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Thom Thom
No of course you're not, if this person has said something about you that is that insensitive you have the right to give them a swift kick in the face. Obviously you don't want to do that for the sake of your job but you can file a complaint or just confront them about it.
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