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Am I shy or do I have Social Anxiety?

Am I shy or do I have Social Anxiety? Topic: Worst case scenarios of being drunk
July 16, 2019 / By Ayn
Question: OK, Now I have read tons of Q & A's on here about the difference between being shy and having social anxiety. However, I find myself to be somewhat in the middle of the two. For starters, I have what I call "low to average at best" self esteem, but it kinda comes and goes. Some days I get depressed about my "condition", and other days I am perfectly fine. I disagree with being labeled as shy because I have no fear of talking to anyone. I will start conversations with strangers, etc. The main problem that I have is public gatherings. I never physically get sick, but mentally I am a train wreck before going out to bars, parties, or even just small get togethers at a friends house. I often avoid them and this has effected my dating life tremendously as well. I am always scared too death of being around a large group of people and possible having to talk. However, after I get to know people, I am fine. Also, I ALWAYS have to drink alcohol at public gatherings to feel comfortable. any idea?
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Abijah Abijah | 10 days ago
I think you are fine, I think society feels a need to label everything, to the point you buy into it, I am actually VERY similar (almost exactly), but you just need to give yourself a kick in the pants and give the 'what I am afraid of?' or 'what's the worst that can happen?' attitude. Just don't think of anything or of worst case scenarios and go to these places and act natural. Trust me, it's much easier to buy into "social anxiety" and use it as an excuse to be nervous or not go out, which makes you temporarily feel better, but hurts you in the long run. I lot of people might have the symptoms and it might even exist, but it's a lot more normal than you think, once you realize that a lot of people share this but just deal with it differently, you'll be better off. BUT A NOTE, I would suggest finding other ways to relax other than the drinks, you don't want it to get out of hand and have another label attached to you, another thing that will hurt you even more.
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Abijah Originally Answered: Am I shy or do I have Social Anxiety?
I think you are fine, I think society feels a need to label everything, to the point you buy into it, I am actually VERY similar (almost exactly), but you just need to give yourself a kick in the pants and give the 'what I am afraid of?' or 'what's the worst that can happen?' attitude. Just don't think of anything or of worst case scenarios and go to these places and act natural. Trust me, it's much easier to buy into "social anxiety" and use it as an excuse to be nervous or not go out, which makes you temporarily feel better, but hurts you in the long run. I lot of people might have the symptoms and it might even exist, but it's a lot more normal than you think, once you realize that a lot of people share this but just deal with it differently, you'll be better off. BUT A NOTE, I would suggest finding other ways to relax other than the drinks, you don't want it to get out of hand and have another label attached to you, another thing that will hurt you even more.

Abijah Originally Answered: Problems with anxiety getting really bad?
multiple members of my extended family, and one of my kids, had diagnoses of clinical anxiety. two are on medications for it, without which they have serious trouble functioning through panic attacks and similar. i never got a diagnosis but i've struggled with anxiety over the years, too. there's a fair amount of evidence that exercise helps with anxiety. heaven knows i don't get as much of it as i ought, but it's a fairly easy thing to try and even if it doesn't help, it's not going to hurt. meditation is another easy thing to try that may help somewhat. whether that's enough for you or not you'll just have to see. if you're still struggling a lot, definitely don't hesitate to get help. my feeling is that when the anxiety is so bad that it's really negatively impacting your life, it's time to go talk to a doctor about it. i'd rather be dependent on an asthma medication than live my life terribly ill with asthma. i don't think it's really any different with clinical anxiety. i know that for some members of my family, anti-anxiety meds really gave them their lives back. careful of "natural supplements." "natural" does not necessarily mean "safe" or "effective." not saying you should absolutely rule them out, but i'd be as careful in starting one of them as i would in starting a medication. it's all the same to your body.
Abijah Originally Answered: Problems with anxiety getting really bad?
Okay so know we know where this anxiety comes from, listing to what you just said it seems that the strongest anxiety is about your health.. If you want to stop this, I advice you to do things that you know will be good for your body...like the thought of getting cancer..are you eating right?? why do these thoughts go through your mind??..Maybe you should get healther or exercise on a daily bases to get that thought out of your head..And your children you have this over protectiveless about their health as well..Is there something your feeding them or doing that makes you feel like your not keeping them healthy..(Take baby steps, research healthy food that will be great for the family and for your well being) I also Advice you take meditation classes to release your stress from every day life...instead of taking pill that can harm you and make you turn to suicide or perhaps confuse your mind since its a drug that changing your point of views.... And as far as your husband and your thinking he will leave you..take it off your mind and hold him close and tell him how much you love him, tell him you wouldn't be the same with out him ...he will appreciate it alot...:D
Abijah Originally Answered: Problems with anxiety getting really bad?
I have something similar, though not as severe. I am 26 weeks pregnant so I am just having to deal with it right now, but usually I take a ton of very specific vitamins that help. With every meal I take a large dose of niacin. Niacin causes a flush similar to a severe sun burn for about a half hour if you take too much too fast so you have to get yourself used to it in small increments. I also take L-tryptophan supplements, 500 mg at dinner and 1000 mg right before bedtime. This helps with seretonin production. In addition I take huge doses of vitamin C at every meal. All of this combined with lots of exercise, particularly lifing weights, helps quite a bit. I have been on prescription medication and taking the vitamins has helped better than meds. I also make sure I eat plenty of dietary fat including saturated fat. The human brain is made up almost entirely of fat and cutting fat in your diet can trigger these kinds of mental problems. So long as you exercise, eat pleny of fresh veggies and watch your carbohydrate intake, eating so much fat will not make you fat. I hope this helps, I know how difficult these kinds of things can be.

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