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Should I go after child support or just let my husband adopt my son?

Should I go after child support or just let my husband adopt my son? Topic: Mental case support
June 20, 2019 / By Wymond
Question: On the birth certificate it is listed as father is unknown. We were never married n never lived together once the birth of my son as I moved in w/ my parents to better myself. My sons biological has an extensive arrest n eviction record. He has 3 active warrents right now one is a felonoy but not good enough to extradite on. He is diagnosed w/ savere mental problems. He is listed on the county record of owing the government money n daily fines are added as a result it states on puplic record that he can ever own an asset or the county will take it n sell it to help repay monies owed. He does not file w/ the irs becuase the county will take that too. He is to smart to ever legally marry knowing that his womans eic will be taken as well.... he only works under the table as well so the county can not garnish his wages. ..... n he has been avoiding child support for 12 yrs. His mother, father, sister n friends also will not help in locating him over the yrs. I did find him n have a present address that has neen verified by the local post office n working phone number. I gave it to child support n they said that they will try one more time to serve him w/ a court ordered paternity test but if he doesn't answer or his girl friend says he doesn't live there that they will close the case again. So my question is should continue to persue this child support? I don't want to but my son is old enough to decide n he said he doesn't want to have anything to do w/ his biological but he wants me to pursue this for the money so he can put it in a savings account n use it for college tuition. I figure I have the best situation right now. Or should I call child support tommorro n say well, I am not sure anymore who the father is as I was w/ muiltiple partners that night. (inwhich I wasn't but that way they would have to shut the book on it or that would push my ex to finally be found n served ... not sure how this would play out....) But for Now Only I have custody n rights so I don't have to worry about anything plus my husband of 6 yrs want to adopt my son n my son wants to be adopted.... I figure since my son is so smart that he can still go to college w/ scholarships n grants. I may b in a postion that I could take a loan for it.....Not sure what to do...... support or adoption. My son is old enough to now make this decision on his own I will support him either way and yes, emotions play a part on decisions at this age..... but my son wants his cake n wants to eat it too n the world doesn't work that way..... So I am torn in what the best decision should be..... I am not perfect,.... I just try to my best..... what to do.... thanks! "Nobody" I think it's ironic that u use the word God in ur sentence n then u r the 1st to throw the 1st stone. Everyone else got the idea of my giberish so maybe u r just different or special..... somehow though u managed to keep reading n post an answer..... To everyone else, that's what I thought too ...that I shouldn't continue to pursue as I would only b helping him by giving him visitation w/out actually recieving any money .... so thank you for ur answers.... as u have all agreed..... n if n when this becomes yahoo spelling answers I will be the 1st to comply...... thanks! ; ) ! Hey, thanks for answering.... but The producers of The Steve Wilkos Show invited us to be on the show so maybe I'll talk to my son n fly out.....
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Shawn Shawn | 6 days ago
It seems to me that you are unlikely to get any significant amount of money from your son's father anyway. If your husband wants to adopt your son and if your son wants to be adopted, then it seems to me that is what should happen. Your son, however, does need to make the decision. Once your son is adopted, your husband will no longer have to pay child support. That may make more likely to agree to the adoption. He probably will, however, still be responsible for the back support he owes you. Maybe that can help pay for your son's education should your husband actually pay it.
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Shawn Originally Answered: Should I go after child support or just let my husband adopt my son?
It seems to me that you are unlikely to get any significant amount of money from your son's father anyway. If your husband wants to adopt your son and if your son wants to be adopted, then it seems to me that is what should happen. Your son, however, does need to make the decision. Once your son is adopted, your husband will no longer have to pay child support. That may make more likely to agree to the adoption. He probably will, however, still be responsible for the back support he owes you. Maybe that can help pay for your son's education should your husband actually pay it.

Nigel Nigel
I think War and Peace was shorter. But if the state has been unable to collect on debts owed, what makes you think you'll do better for child support? But the decision is what? Financial gain or the best emotional environment for the kid? Money is short-lived, here today, gone tomorrow. IF you can even get it. But emotional stability sticks with the kid throughout his adult life. You decide which is in the best interest of the child.
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Kolman Kolman
gee this sounds like a guy i know and the reason he does what he does is cause of what his ex did to him. he doesn't file taxes he sure as heck won't take a dna cause like he said it not his and to be honest consider what his ex did to do him i believe him. my grandfather said only the mother has any clue who might be the father and with so many tramps around well need i say more. common senses if your some recognizes the stepfather as his dad then case closed the boy should be adopted by him. you can't bleed a turnip dry this you can't take what isn't there to be taken
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Immanuel Immanuel
God. Its amazing that you can spell "biological" and the rest is so much gibberish. Your husband has a step son. That shouldn't preclude pursuing child support if that's what you want to do. Doesn't sound like there's any money to be had there anyways. Since you moved in with your folks to "better yourself", I hate to see how you were before.
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Eustace Eustace
You picked the man to lay down with. He is a loser, and if he hasn't given your son anything for 12 yrs, he isn't going to.
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Eustace Originally Answered: Child support - am i being cheated?
I've been trying to get a father to do this, but your dad would make a great candidate for it. First off, understand that your mother has $60,000 a year in taxable income. That's what Alimony is. As such, 20-25% of that she's suppose to spend on you and your brother, under all state child support regulations. When Child Support is calculated, they add together the incomes of both parents. That means his income, minus the $60,000, because Alimony is deductible, plus the $60,000 she gets in taxable income. From this total the child support amount is taken from the guidelines. Added to this is the cost day care, medical insurance, etc. At this point the income of each parent is divided by the total income of both. This shows what percentage a parent's income is of the total. Example taken from actual case: $60,000 Mother $110.400 Father (estimate) $170,400 Total $110,400 / $170,400 = 65% In this example, the father (obligor) owes 64% of the total obligation or roughly $27,600 a year (based on average percentage for 2 kids of 25%) in support of one child, but the mother (obligee) is also obligated to spend $15,000 a year on the child, for a total of $42,600, or $3500 a month. The problem is in over 90% of the cases, only the Obligor is required to prove the payment of the child support. When either parent's income increases, their obligation increases, but the child only clearly benefits from the increase of the obligor's income. The obligee is under no requirement to spend more on the child. By having both parents paying into a Trust Fund, the custodial parent than provides the fund with proof that the money is being spent on the child, such as a percentage of rent or house payment, utilities, food, etc. Also, the cost of necessities, such as clothing, shoes, and other expenses exclusive to the child, with receipts and clothing tags or proof of purchase cut from the package. All this follows in accordance with Federal Laws dating back 100 years as regards Trust Funds that have been established for Guardians to draw from when parents have been killed, such as in an accident. Also in cases involving child stars (The Coogan Act-1939) where the law is designed to prevent their parents from spending the money for their own uses that belongs to the children. Any money left in the account would than collect interest and be available for emergencies, or special expenses, such as part of the cost of a car for a teenager, or a college education. Using this method would mean the child is getting full advantage of the support owed by both the parents, and not just one parent. **************************************... Please keep me apprised if he decides to try it, or you do. In the cases of child stars, attorneys have represented them, individually in establishing a trust fund, so you may have standing to file the case, yourself. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\

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