Originally Answered: How much should a bridesmaid pay for their part in a wedding ceremony?
Honestly, it really depends on this troublesome bridesmaid's budget. If I were in her shoes, I know I wouldn't be able to fork out $210 on this stuff. I'm definitely not saying it's not important that the bride has her wedding as she wants it, but if this bridesmaid is truly having monetary problems, perhaps some people should pitch in to get this bridesmaid's stuff taken care of?
For instance, I have a bridesmaid in my wedding who has to travel 800 miles to be in my wedding. She's a sweetheart, but she's not the richest girl in the world, either. So we set her up with a family member who has a guest room, and I paid for her bridesmaid dress. I knew she couldn't afford all the expenses, so we helped her out. On top of that, all of my bridesmaids (except the one listed above) have children. None of them can afford things like hair, makeup, etc. So I just told them to do their own hair, own makeup, if they so choose.
A wedding is a beautiful thing, and it's very unfortunate that this bridesmaid is getting everyone rustled up...but perhaps her troubles are stemming from lack of money? It never hurts to ask her if she needs some help paying for things. Even if you girls pitch in a few bucks for her hair or makeup, I'm sure she'd appreciate it. A lot of people put off the show that they have money, when they actually don't. Instead, they lash out by being impossible...just to try to avoid forking out money.
I'm not agreeing with what she's doing. In all honesty, she'd drive me nuts if she were my bridesmaid. But try to work with her, at least to take some stress off of the bride. Taking stress off the bride is also part of you lady's responsibilities, too. :) Just approach this bridesmaid in a non-threatening manner and see if you guys can't figure out what's going on. I'm sure the bride will appreciate your help a LOT. Good luck!! xoxo