I hate myself?
Topic: Eczema case study
July 20, 2019 / By Hollis Question:
I have always felt very conscious about my body image. I was never considered the "pretty girl" ever in my life. The only time I heard anyone call me pretty was my sister, i'm pretty sure meant to console me. Any other times others call me pretty I can always detect a sense of sacasm and insincerity. I remembered there was one time one of my classmates commented " Your sister is so pretty, why aren't you?" Or something along those lines. During family reunions, relatives will say "Wow, your daughters are so pretty especially the first one." The "daughters"they refer to are not including me, they are referring to my older and younger sisters.
I know the media plays a huge role in setting up the standards for body image but seriously, I don't need the media to know I look ugly When I look at people-anyone- on the street, I don't see anyone as flat-chested as I am, or anyone with a big leg or muscular legs. I seriously have every flaw that anyone can think of; insecurity, lack of confidence, hunchback,sclerosis, eczema, no boobs, ugly face... I just hate myself. Everyone seems to have something I don't have. The only strength I have is that I can paint and I'm relatively performing well in my studies.
Im a loner. Everytime I watch other teen girls partying and having fun, I feel left out, rejected, isolated, like I never existed.
I need to find a way to thik positively but Im so depressed right now I don't know how to help myself...
that's not my face, its a watercolour sketch I did years back
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Edain | 2 days ago
Hey I just want to say that I often feel like you do right now. I don't know if this will help but I will tell you what I think about the world.
I noticed that confident or interesting girls almost always appear to be the most appealing/the prettiest. Some people who I think are pretty are not necessarily those that fit today's "beauty standards." In fact, they're not stick thin, or HOT thin, and they don't have perfect hair, perfect teeth, or a perfect face. They do, however, have COOL personalities. I like them for their passion in reading, their witty sense of humor, their taste of music/fashion, their outgoing and upbeat personality, their confidence, and how they always know how to have fun.
So I guess what I'm telling you is most people ultimately care more about confidence/personality than looks. I know there's the fact that people judge with first impressions, and their first impressions are usually from what they see first. In this case, you'll have to find a way to let your personality radiate... either in your air of walking or in your choice of clothes :)
Also, be kind to yourself. When you're struggling, you deserve the best. Distract yourself by putting on some nail polish or taking a nice shower and lathering moisturizer on your body. I don't know about you but they always make me feel better about myself.
And don't spend so much time worrying about pleasing others. This is YOUR life, and you should live it in a way that makes you happy. If you think about it, you're only decreasing your quality of life by mentally abusing yourself. You shouldn't waste your life worrying about things like this; you deserve better.
You probably find that you are a "loner" because you're so absorbed in your self-hatred. Sometimes it's strong enough to make you believe that others hate you as well, when they really don't. As a result, you isolate yourself without really knowing because you're not making strong efforts to move out of your comfort zone and talk to people.
"So the universe is not quite as you thought it was.
You’d better rearrange your beliefs, then. Because you certainly can’t rearrange the universe."
Man I know how it feels when you feel bad about what appears to be a trivial matter and someone else reminds you that there are kids starving in Africa. Doesn't actually make you feel better, eh? :\
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Take your flaws and make something good abut them! You're flat chested? Well at least I won't have back pain from heavy boobs & I can wear strapless tops! You have big & muscular legs? Instead of your legs being fat, you have muscle instead and I know a lot of people who would love that! You feel that you have an ugly face? That's not true, everyone is beautiful & that includes you! You may not be society's "beautiful" but then you would be like everyone else, and what fun is that? You're beautiful, I promise. I'll tell you a secret, right now I have no friends that are from school. And I'm doing just fine, a lot of them are just stuck up mean girls that you really don't need to affiliate yourself with! Stay true to yourself! And if that doesn't help, stand in front of the mirror and instead of picking apart all of your flaws, pick out every good quality you have and love yourself for those! Hope this helps!
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You should be thankful that you live in a place where you don't have to dig in garbage cans everyday to find what little food there is. People are getting beheaded everyday and all you can worry about is how "disgusting you look". Stop caring what other people think.
I can't stand the media in America; all they do is pressure women to look a certain way, and if you don't meet that criteria then you might as well be an outcast. Quit being a little girl and stop holding yourself back from the good things in life. It's time to grow up.
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