Topic: How to write a two weeks notice example
May 21, 2019 / By Erykah Question:
Be prepared because this is long. I ramble when I write, so I would really appreciate it if you took the time to read my words and respond to them.
I'm a guy and I just graduated high school. I've had this problem my entire life. I've always been a loner who wanted to be independent. I've spent a lot of my time alone, perhaps too much. I've heard that isolation can bring out schizophrenic signs in some people. I've noticed a few of these tendencies in me, but luckily they are not severe, at least not now. I didn't really make any friends in high school, mostly because I felt alien to them. I did manage to make one friend and she is very much like me, though she's a lot more outgoing than I am. She seems to have a lot of friends, but apparently this is because she attempts to alter her personality in order to get them to like her. She tells me these things because she trusts me with her deep feelings such as this.
I managed to tell this friend about all my problems and now she keeps trying to give me advice and she tells me to go out more. I never asked for her advice, just for her to listen, but she feels like she has to help me for whatever reason. I felt as if I became dependent on her a while ago, so I was forced to limit my contact with her. I saw a movie with her on Tuesday, the first time I've seen her in a couple months. For most people that's nothing, but for me it brought up some of those feelings again, so I need some time alone from her, even if it's bad for my mental health.
It concerns me because I've spent years with no close contact with anybody. Now that I have it, I feel the desire to push it away because it's such a foreign concept to me. Being around this girl can be uncomfortable for me because I know so much about her, yet I see her acting differently around others. I've stopped talking about my problems with her because it's making us way too close, plus she needs to be able to grow herself and she can't do that with me depending on her all the time. This girl's flaw is that she needs to be needed. I want to be a strong and independent guy, but I'm not sure how to go about that.
The next time I talk to this girl will have to be in either a week or two because I keep trying to build my life around her and that's unhealthy. I sometimes get jealous if she's hanging out with somebody else, but I haven't told her that. My biggest problem here is that if I'm alone, I become depressed, but if I'm with her, I become needy. I've received counseling before, but I stopped going because I truly feel as if there is nothing they can do for me anymore. They've told me what to do and they've helped me to understand myself, but that's the most they can do. Talking about this isn't helping me anymore. I need to do my own work now. I'll be attending University in the fall, so I will try to make an effort to talk to people, but I'm still going to have a lot of trouble opening up.
It's difficult for me to get used to a new way of thinking. Let's say for example that they come up with new and improved coca-cola. You spend years drinking the regular flavor, then they come up with the new one. You're intrigued by it, so you want to give it a try, but you don't like it because it's different, so naturally you would want to go back to the old stuff. But what if the new stuff is better for you? What if the old stuff is making you severely unhealthy? What if they completely took away the old flavor and replaced it with the new one? You would have no choice but to adapt to this replacement or simply stop drinking it all together. That's what it's like for me. My old habits have been around for years and I'm used to them, but they make me unhealthy. I have to adapt to a new way of thinking, but it may take years for that to happen and I may never totally break my old habits.
To end my long rant, I've been in isolation for a long time now and it's really screwing up my mental health. I've had obsessive compulsive traits since I was a little kid and now I''m checking my e-mail thirty times a day. How can I break myself of this long, intolerable isolation?
Clarabella | 4 days ago
Every one goes through this at some point. It's hard to trust people in general, and once you find someone you can trust, you just wonder for how long until something happens to sever the ties with them. But you have to keep optimism on the frienship subject. Just believe that she will be your friend and that it's okay for you to rely on her and it's okay for her to feel needed by you. There is nothing wrong with that at all. If you feel like you're too dependent on her, you don't have to limit your contact with her. Just limit her influence on certain things that are more personal. She's just trying to break you out of your shell, and I think if you accept that she's wanting to help and make you happy and just go with it for a bit, you will in time find that indeed you ARE happier and you are allowing yourself to open up and you are surrounding yourself with more people.
There are times to be alone, and there are times to surround yourself with others. An equal medium is hard for any person, but as long as you are trying that's all that matters. Old habits can be defeated. Give your friend a call and accept that it's okay to have the kind of friendship you do with her. Maybe make it into something more. Focusing on something such as a relationship and having that kind of bond with someone can be incredibly empowering and help rid you of your depression and lonliness.
Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression..
But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then.
Helping you eliminate depression?
If you want to change then you have to do whatever it takes which means seeing a therapist once a week and leaving the house everyday you can just walk in your garden. And as for the computer it causes depression so use it 30 minutes a day.
If you want read some good quotes that can make you smile or help you.