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How to get over my first love?

How to get over my first love? Topic: How to write a song about lost love
May 21, 2019 / By Donalda
Question: Me and a girl were best friends for a long time and we were very close friends. I'm 15 and She's 18. The whole time i've known her she was dating this guy who was a complete jerk and he didn't love or care about her at all. We texted each other all the time and I was always there for her for whatever she needed. Then they broke up and I was there for her. After about a month I told her that i was completely in love with her and said she had known for a while. After about 2 months she told me she was absolutely in love with me but she had got back together with him again about a month before. I fell more and more in love with her all the time and i couldn't help it. She would come and see me during school and i would hug her and tell her that i loved her and we had a secret but i knew that i loved her more than he did. I was a freshman and she graduated and she broke up with him that day. Our friendship got very serious after that and we kissed one time and that was the last time i saw her. Her boyfriend told one of my friends everything and i found out that she had been seeing him and she lied about it to my face. I confronted her about it and she denied it. But i told her boyfriend that she had been talking to me for months and he was mad at her too. I couldn't let her lie about it anymore and that was three days ago. I just couldnt believe that she had lied to me. She was my first love and i havent slept a bunch for three days. I catch myself just thinking about her and i break into tears. She meant the world to me. I would've done anything for her. Can anyone give suggestions on how i can get over this?
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Carry Carry | 3 days ago
Dude, I know exactly where you're coming from. If it makes you feel any better, realize that something like this happens to almost all guys (and girls) at some point. I've got to be real honest with you here, guy... it sounds like she was keeping you around as a backup plan. Girls at 18 often don't think very rationally about relationships, so she's probably not looking around asking "who loves me the most?" Women start asking that question later, when they're in their late 20's (if ever). Here's what you have to focus on: it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. In time, you'll look back on the good points of your relationship, and you'll have learned from the bad points. And you'll take that new wisdom into your next relationship, which will make it even better. I know it doesn't help much. The crying is normal; just let it happen. If you like to write, write about it. If you play an instrument, write a song about it. Some of the world's greatest poems, stories, and songs come straight out of heartbreak. If you don't do that stuff, then walk down to the old train bridge (or whatever) and scream your head off for a while. Let out everything that pissed you off, and then cry about the things that leave you feeling sad. In time, you'll start getting a better perspective. And welcome to the club :-) Oh also, next time, break up your question into multiple paragraphs. It makes it easier to read, and more people will answer your questions if they're easy to read.
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Carry Originally Answered: What is happiness,love(like writing love at the end of a letter),sweetheart/sweetie in Hebrew?(((Thank you:-))?
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Carry Originally Answered: How could Hamlets and Ophelia's love be compared to peoples love in today's world?
I don't have an answer for your specific question, however I've written an essay about Hamlet's love for Ophelia that might be helpful: http://www.thyorisons.com/#Music_Vows - The Honey of His Music Vows Hamlet was utterly sincere when he wrote: Doubt thou the stars are fire; Doubt that the sun doth move; Doubt truth to be a liar; But never doubt I love. . . . . I love thee best, O most best, believe it. He "importuned [her] with love in honourable fashion . . . . and [gave] countenance to his speech . . . with almost all the holy vows of heaven." He would have given her ALL the vows of heaven if his father hadn't first led him to give a vow to Hell. The Ghost said to Hamlet: But that I am forbid to tell the secrets of my prison-house I could a tale unfold whose lightest word would harrow up thy soul . . . But this eternal blazon must not be To ears of flesh and blood. list, list, o list! So then the ghost went ahead and told the tale anyway and it drove Hamlet mad. But in the closet scene, Hamlet was mute. Unlike his father, Hamlet refused to pass on the madness. He was loosed out of hell to speak of horrors, but he would not speak them to Ophelia. Ophelia My lord, as I was sewing in my closet, Lord Hamlet, with his doublet all unbraced; No hat upon his head; his stockings foul'd, Ungarter'd, and down-gyved to his ancle; Pale as his shirt; his knees knocking each other; And with a look so piteous in purport As if he had been loosed out of hell to speak of horrors,--he comes before me. Hamlet, who had once given Ophelia the honey of his music vows, was now silent. As Hamlet later said, "hell itself breathes out contagion to this world," but with his silence Hamlet tried to protect Ophelia from that breath of contagion. Laertes had warned Ophelia: Perhaps he loves you now, . . . . but you must fear, His greatness weigh'd, his will is not his own; For he himself is subject to his birth: He may not, as unvalued persons do, Carve for himself . . . And therefore must his choice be circumscribed Unto the voice and yielding of that body Whereof he is the head. Then if he says he loves you, It fits your wisdom so far to believe it As he in his particular act and place May give his saying deed; which is no further Than the main voice of Denmark goes withal. Hamlet, when he was himself, loved Ophelia. But then he erased himself from his own brain and there in the book and volume of his brain he wrote his warllike father's commandment (the voice of Denmark, sent from Hell to speak of horrors, to breathe contagion, unfolding the secrets of his prison-house that he was forbid to tell to mortal ears). Hamlet was from himself taken away. Hamlet did not want to chain Ophelia to the monster he had become. He did not want to make her, like his mother, imperial jointress to this warlike state and a breeder of sinners - sinners like his warlike father, his murderous uncle, and his own anguished and divided self. Also please see http://www.thyorisons.com/#Remembrances - Remembrances in the Book of Their Brains http://www.thyorisons.com/#Envious_Slive... - An Envious Sliver
Carry Originally Answered: How could Hamlets and Ophelia's love be compared to peoples love in today's world?
I don't imagine they could, because couples today meet in casual settings - and their parents are seldom involved.

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