Topic: How to write an email to a old friend
June 25, 2019 / By Sky Question:
When I was in sixth grade, I had a very close friend named "Joe". I guess you could say he was my first "love". I had feeling for him back then, but we were best friends, did a lot of things together. He moved before 7th grade, but we kept in touch for years via email, MySpace, and then Facebook. The last time I saw him was at a High-School Choir tournament in tenth grade. It was like we'd never skipped a beat, we hugged, talked, and reminisced. Shortly thereafter, he moved out of state and we have not kept in as close touch. I never stopped missing him. I loved him, I mean, real love. Not like romantic love, but love as a friend, as a brother, as a confidante. I am a happily married woman (3 years) with a brand new baby girl, so this isn't a matter of always having been in love with someone else, it's about missing my friend, my brother, and wanting to reconnect. We've had each other on Facebook since High School, and I recently found out he has cancer. I don't know what type, but he's just relapsed, and many of his close friends and family commenting on his FB wall sound like it's serious. I'm naturally very upset and wish he were here so I could help him through this. That's what friends do. I want to talk to him about it, know what kind of cancer it is, tell him I've missed him...and if the worst came to pass and he lost his battle with cancer, (this makes me sick thinking about it...I would want to attend his funeral. It's been so long since he and I talked in depth, and with this being such a sensitive topic, I don't know how to (or IF to) contact him via FB to get answers to my questions and tell him I've missed him. I also don't want him to get the wrong idea and think I'm telling him I love him in a romantic way, because I don't, but I thought I did back when he was still living here, and had made him aware of it at the time. I've left messages on his FB wall saying that I'm thinking and praying for him, and that if he needs to talk, I'm here. Is that where I should let it stand? It's been so long, maybe he no longer considers me the close friend we used to be, maybe he doesn't miss my friendship like I miss his, or finds it awkward because I'm married now. I know a lot of people thing platonic relationships don't work, but a lot of my best friends were guys in school, I felt I related to them more. Help please? I can't bear the thought that my old friend might be dying, and I'll never get to tell him I miss him and our friendship, and I can't bear the thought of not attending his funeral if the worst came to pass.
Oran | 10 days ago
Your question made me cry. I am a 46 yr. old man. What you have written here you need to post on his FB. I am sure he will want to contact you! Hopefully he is not to sick to reach you.
well i think that you could facebook him and leave him your #. that if he felt like it and had time, that you would really really appreciate getting a chance to talk with him. just a short and to the point message to him. then it's up to him if he chooses to call you.
you have to realize, that he may feel like a burden to his friends. that he doesn't want all the attention he's been getting due to the circumstances.
i'm sure he remembers what you two had, so i wouldn't go doubting that.
i think by you genuinely reaching out one good time, that you'll be able to live with yourself no matter what the outcome may be. that you didn't want to intrude, but you went as far as you could without being disrespectful. that way if he does take a turn for the worse, you won't feel like you ignored him or his situation. a kind of closure for you, that you tried. you don't want any regrets when it comes to something important to you as this is.
best wishes to you. losing people out of your life is something i struggle with, so i know where you are coming from.
listen when people are sick its hard for them to live in the norm , what I would do is contact him through what ever means neccessary and tell him u luv him from the bottom of your heart and u want to support him in his battle. dont worry about all that ying , yang! if he leave here at least he knows that u hung in there as a friend who never stopped caring.