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Bf's baby mama never leaves us alone?

Bf's baby mama never leaves us alone? Topic: Mama papers
June 25, 2019 / By Jaymes
Question: I'm dating this guy for a little over 2 years now, it had been a rocky road but we eventually seemed to overcome many problems and started our new lives together. His baby's mama, this young girl who left him at his worst for a richer boyfriend(while I was the one who decided to stay by my bf's side), now trying to come in between my bf and I. I'm a very open person, I tried to be nice to her despite how she assaulted me in the past for no reasons. I know that how she keeps texting and calling my bf almost like every day(when she claims that she's in a very happy relationship with her new bf.) I would get every irritated at first, but later I just decided not to be upset about it anymore, she's the baby's mama, what can I do right? (Btw, they let my bf's father to adopt their kid since they were both too young to take care of her...and she signed the paper earlier this year.The kid is currently living in a foreign country.) She even asked my bf if she meant nothing to him right now, my bf told her that how she left him at his worst, and I was the one who stay, he's happy with me right now. BUT SHE JUST WON'T LEAVE US ALONE!!!! Omg.. Just a couple months ago, she even came inside our house!!! She came with her friend who is my bf's best friend's gf...They were coming to pick up my bf's best friend from our house. yes very complicated. Nobody invited her tho, she just came along. Our roommate told me how she was acting like that she owned our house(we just recently moved to a new place, and I wasn't at home that time.) She even went into our roommate's room for no reason!! (She went all the way down to the basement, opened the room's door-without knocking when our roommate was inside studying, our roommate asked her what she wants from her, she just slammed the door and left without saying anything. Btw, our roommate had never met her before.) I was very frustrated this had happened, my bottom line is, she can text or call my bf however she wants(if she thinks she can get him back, she can try), but what she did(coming into my bf's house like that. Our roommate opened the door for her because she kept banging on the door.) was a straight personal privacy invasion. I talked to my bf's mother, she told me to call the police next time when she shows up randomly like that again. My bf said she won't show up to the house anymore, so I hope so. It's been already 2 years, and she still won't leave us alone(She moved to somewhere else and living with her new bf for a while now, but sometimes she would come back in town to visit)....sometimes I feel giving up, but I keep telling myself not to because that's just what she wants. I love their kid and I respect her as their kid's mother. I'm not trying to replace her place and I know that I can't be. All I want is that I respect her, and she can respect me too. Because I'm not doing anything to harm her. I love my bf, and I love their kid. I don't know why I post up a question here, perhaps I wanna hear from people who had experienced in a similar situation!
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Gallagher Gallagher | 6 days ago
OMG! Thank God I found this post. I am in the exact situation. You're not alone, girl. My boyfriend's baby mama wont leave us alone either. What makes it worse is that she has their daughter so she uses their kid as bait so she can talk or see him. She states she doesn't want him back, as she has a new bf, however she talks about me like she's jealous of me and who I have (him). I'm scared because I know how much he loved this chick and how manipulative she can be to him when she wants him back, even after cheating 5 times, she's able to get him back. I'm just worried one day, she'll snap her fingers for him back, and he'll go crawling back. I know he loves me, but I think the power she has over him is more powerful..especially since he loves his kid to death. I want to leave too but I love him. All we can do is wish and pray that one day, they'll move on and get married and have other kids to worry about so they stop stressing over that one they share with our men. As mean as it sounds, that' s all we can do. If I had known how hard this would be, i would've ran the moment I knew he was a baby daddy. BABY MAMA DRAMA SUCKS.
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Gallagher Originally Answered: Bf's baby mama never leaves us alone?
OMG! Thank God I found this post. I am in the exact situation. You're not alone, girl. My boyfriend's baby mama wont leave us alone either. What makes it worse is that she has their daughter so she uses their kid as bait so she can talk or see him. She states she doesn't want him back, as she has a new bf, however she talks about me like she's jealous of me and who I have (him). I'm scared because I know how much he loved this chick and how manipulative she can be to him when she wants him back, even after cheating 5 times, she's able to get him back. I'm just worried one day, she'll snap her fingers for him back, and he'll go crawling back. I know he loves me, but I think the power she has over him is more powerful..especially since he loves his kid to death. I want to leave too but I love him. All we can do is wish and pray that one day, they'll move on and get married and have other kids to worry about so they stop stressing over that one they share with our men. As mean as it sounds, that' s all we can do. If I had known how hard this would be, i would've ran the moment I knew he was a baby daddy. BABY MAMA DRAMA SUCKS.

Dermot Dermot
Dreadful position to be in. Firstly, change your locks and get a court order a good mile surrounding your house. Secondly, since there are kids involved here, draw up an agreement plan that the "change over," should be in a public area, with very little direct contact from her, or use a person that can act as a "go between." Hopefully, this may be less stressful for the kids, you and your partner. Good Luck Lain
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Benjy Benjy
Talking to the baby-mama is probably just going to get confrontational. Talk to your man, it's his issue, he should fix it. If he loves you and truly wants you around he will. If he wants to have her hanging around for backup-sex he'll make up some excuse about taking care of his kid and all that.
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Abell Abell
I would be telling her to leave us the hell alone move on with your life like your kids will always be your kids but my boyfriend does not have to be your boyfriend he is the baby daddy and thats it!
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Shulamit Shulamit
Have sincere word with her and speak our your mind. This way, you wil atleast get to know whats on her mind.
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