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I need major help/ interacial dating?

I need major help/ interacial dating? Topic: Write letters in italian
June 17, 2019 / By Fowke
Question: I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. I am 22 years old and my boyfriend is 26 years old. We get along great and love each other very much. My parents still don't know about him because he is haitian and I am italian. My parents want me to marry an italian and i am so scared to tell them about my boyfriend. I love them so much that I don't wanna loose them but I know that i need to tell them. I'm getting tired of keeping this all inside. My brother and cousins love my boyfriend but i am just a little worried as to how my parents will react. How do I even bring this up?? Do I address them seperately?? Should i write my mom a long letter explaining everything???? I get very emotional with this and i know i'd probably break down in tears. Please help me out, as anyone been through this?
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Daw Daw | 2 days ago
These are your Parents, are they really the type of people to disown you for dating outside your race? If that's true, maybe you need to grow up and introduce them to this century, we are all the same. Don't let Old School thinking get in the way of true happiness.
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Daw Originally Answered: I need major help/ interacial dating?
These are your Parents, are they really the type of people to disown you for dating outside your race? If that's true, maybe you need to grow up and introduce them to this century, we are all the same. Don't let Old School thinking get in the way of true happiness.
Daw Originally Answered: I need major help/ interacial dating?
I had a similar situation but fortunately my dad did except my puerto rican boyfriend it was the rest of the family I was worried about. But I brought him to my family reunion anyways had a few problems but nothing serious. The best thing you can do is go visit them sit them down together and explain. Say listen I know you want me to date italians but been hiding it from you that I've been dating a haitian man and been in a relationship with him for 4 yeads and I think it's time you met because I love him and think he is the one for me. Explain to them that it's not for debate if you will be together since you have already been together for 4 years. Remember you are an adult now and they can't tell you who to love. As hard as it might be you also need to give them time to except him when they are ready to meet them bring him over. If not stay in contact just don't talk about him till they are ready to except him. If they make nasty remarks walk out or hang up till they get the point. Time to be grown up and face them this isn't the old days you should be able to love who you want.

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I had a similar situation but fortunately my dad did except my puerto rican boyfriend it was the rest of the family I was worried about. But I brought him to my family reunion anyways had a few problems but nothing serious. The best thing you can do is go visit them sit them down together and explain. Say listen I know you want me to date italians but been hiding it from you that I've been dating a haitian man and been in a relationship with him for 4 yeads and I think it's time you met because I love him and think he is the one for me. Explain to them that it's not for debate if you will be together since you have already been together for 4 years. Remember you are an adult now and they can't tell you who to love. As hard as it might be you also need to give them time to except him when they are ready to meet them bring him over. If not stay in contact just don't talk about him till they are ready to except him. If they make nasty remarks walk out or hang up till they get the point. Time to be grown up and face them this isn't the old days you should be able to love who you want.
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Baptist Originally Answered: How do I get over my fear of dating?
I love reading these types of questions. Ignorant terror is so cute at times. Seriously, you are never going to feel comfortable around water (especially something like the ocean) if you've lived in the middle of the desert your whole life. What is the normal expectation of someone seeing the ocean for the first time after they've spent their entire life living in the middle of the desert? How do they know what is or isn't normal? Are they going to feel normal or are they going to FREAK OUT at the sight of so much water? And is that freaking out actually something normal that can be expected of them? I think so. You aren't freaking out about liking a guy. You are freaking out about the realization that a guy liking you back can seriously affect how you feel about the world. You are freaking out over the realization that someone else's opinion (good or bad) can seriously affect how you see yourself. If someone you like likes you back, your opinion of yourself can soar to heights unimaginable. If someone you like doesn't like you back, your opinion of yourself can sink to depths we frankly aren't going to think about. And you are freaking out about a guy wanting to do things with you before you are ready. But you are also freaking out about the idea that you may, if you meet the right guy, actually want to do some of that stuff. Lets start with something basic: holding hands. Holding hands is basic: kids hold their parent's hands all the time. But, when someone you like holds your hand, they are touching you, and you are touching them back. Not only that, when you stop holding hands, it feels like your hand is so much more lonely now than before they touched it. That's an awful lot of emotion just from holding someone's hand. That's an awful lot of emotional realization you gain just by holding someone's hand. And if that kind of emotion, that kind of realization within you, is intense, thinking about kissing them is just going to blow your mind through the roof. What if you start holding hands with someone, and get to like it, and they stop liking you. Now, you learned to like having your hand being held and now its gone back to being alone and not being held. That's not pretend lonely, that's real, I-used-to-feel-it-but-now-I-don't, lonely. Think about these messages. What happens if you don't say anything and this guy stops sending you compliments, stop sending you messages? You aren't freaking out about the messages, you are freaking out about what happens if he stops, and you keep looking at your phone, waiting for a message arrive to tell you something amazing about yourself that you didn't know before. Once you get used to something like that, getting used to not having it is really really hard. You aren't afraid of dating, you're afraid of the life you could go back to if you date and it doesn't work out. The thing is, you're already past it. Can another guy who likes you (who you like) simply like you and not tell you about it, not find a way to send you messages? Can you go back to just going online and never seeing another guy compliment you, never have that 'OMG he's saying amazing things about me' feeling? Can you go back to the desert and be happy after you've seen how big the ocean is?
Baptist Originally Answered: How do I get over my fear of dating?
I know what you're going through, I feel the exact same way around boys I like. If a guy tells me he likes me or compliments me I feel really weird and uncomfortable and awkward. All that you really can do is try it out...If a guy asks you out and you like him back, say yes. You can never know if you truly dislike dating if you never try it. In the end you may get over your fear and actually enjoy dating! Best of luck :)

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