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Close friend is too embarrassed/shy to talk in person, how can I try to get an answer out of her?

Close friend is too embarrassed/shy to talk in person, how can I try to get an answer out of her? Topic: How to write a letter to a long lost friend
June 16, 2019 / By Cornelius
Question: This girl and I both have liked each other at some point in our history of being friends. She liked me 3 years ago, I liked her a year ago, I asked her out 7 months ago but she told me she was too busy to date. Then 2 months ago she lost a relative. This girl who normally doesn't touch guys at all (and isn't a flirt, period) was suddenly clutching onto me as if I was the only thing keeping her standing, twining fingers with me, telling me she told her family all about me, was so glad I was there for her. We ended up sleeping next to each other on the futon, cuddled up next to each other. Since that night I've been trying to figure out what she actually feels for me. Problem is, I've been trying for a month to get her alone, and it simply hasn't happened. When we go to get food it's always as a group. When we meet up at parties, we're always surrounded by friends and I normally end up playing bartender, so she leaves before I can get free to walk back with her. When we do hang out though everything seems fine, and the last few times she's been holding my gaze for far longer... and I have no idea why. The only thing I can think of is writing her. She knows I have the balls to ask her out in person (I've already done it once), but she seems to be afraid of something with this and this is something I have to know. Just send her a handwritten letter essentially saying 'hey what the heck happened that night? I would completely understand if you just needed to be comforted that night but if any other girl had acted the way you had I would have assumed they definitely wanted something more' Good plan? Have a better one? I simply have no idea what to do, she's too shy and embarrassed to let me talk about it in person and I need closure so I can either date her or let her go.
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Arvin Arvin | 4 days ago
''hey what the heck happened that night? I would completely understand if you just needed to be comforted that night but if any other girl had acted the way you had I would have assumed they definitely wanted something more'' Do you even realize how cocky that last bit sounds? Lol if anyone ever said that to me, I'd definitely have a few assumptions of my own. Be subtle about the way you refer to that night. Almost as if it never happened. As a girl, I honestly think that night had little to do with you and more to do with the fact that she needed someone there. And if you are going to ask her out, just don't text her about going out, capeesh? That's a real bummer. Sure, even I think you have the balls to ask her out in person, but its tougher the second time around, and maybe she's waiting to see if you actually do it. Maybe wait it out, see if the gazing continues, if she clings on to you, etc. Text her about hanging out, NOT as a date, just watching the movies (get some of her friends to come with you too, I know I lose my shyness when I'm with my girls). Sit next to her and maybe during the movie text her (WHILE YOU SIT NEXT TO HER) about that night - but go on about it with something like, "How are doing lately? ...say some more stuff, fill in the blanks for me here because I don't know exactly what she went through...and THEN you can say something like, "I've been thinking about that night and I was wondering if you care about me." She'll know what you mean when you say "that night", and she'll answer it her own way when you ask her about "caring" ... if she's iffy diffy about the situation, she's not ready, and if she hints that she likes you, then KABOOM, hold her hand and make her smile =) Best of luck buddy!
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Arvin Originally Answered: How do you begin to actualy talk on the phone with a close friend that happens to be a "Girl"?
Come up with some topics and questions first. Write them down. Keep the conversation to about 10-15 minutes so no one gets bored When it's time to end the call, say "Well, I better let you go. It was great talking to you. I'll call you again if that's ok"
Arvin Originally Answered: How do you begin to actualy talk on the phone with a close friend that happens to be a "Girl"?
Call with some bs question, that makes sense to be asking though, then start up a light conversation.

Val Val
GOOD PLAN! Be prepared for the worst (just in case) that she just needed to be comforted. DON'T TEXT. your plan is way more romantic and sincere. Tell her that no matter if it was just that night or if she wants something more, that you will always be there for her as a friend that she can go to:) good luck!
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Scholastica Scholastica
Noooo, don't use texting... Definitely hand write it... I'm not sure if you meant you intend it mail it? I'd say hand write and deliver in person, but that's just me.
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Scholastica Originally Answered: A Riddle: Deaf person Blind person Mute person (Possible Answer)?
She gets the deaf guy to tell him. 3 people are on the island so one of them has to be the wife. The wife IS the mute person. She is married to the Blind guy. She runs away with the deaf guy. The only way for her to tell her blind husband would be to get the deaf man to explain. Took me like 15 mins to work it out. that was a good one.

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