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Can my boss blame me for being sick... is that okay?

Can my boss blame me for being sick... is that okay? Topic: Pay someone to take my online class for me
June 15, 2019 / By Marlene
Question: Long story short my boss is a nightmare. She is a huge stress case, over achiever, rude, picky, mean, nasty, self serving, the whole thing. I am very detailed, have an incredibly strong work ethic, and never cut myself any slack, it's perfect or it's not done at all. The thing is that I am sooooo stressed out by her & her demands every single day. I have been working for her for a year & 1/2 and I have maybe taken lunch 2 times and I work overtime at LEAST 2 hours a night. The couple of times I have needed to see a doctor she gets pissed off & starts grilling me like why can't I go after work or on the weekend, etc. She tenses up & turns into a complete psycho at the mere suggestion that I might need to take an hour off in the afternoon, she clenches her jaw, gives dirty looks, throws files around, slams doors, etc. So now I'm at home with an abscessed tooth which has infected my jaw & I'm in so much pain I have barely slept at all. She says this is all my fault for not taking better care of myself and seeing a doctor sooner!! She just ripped me a new AHOLE and made me feel like crap. And my favorite part is that she's "disappointed" in me. Nobody would ever say something like that to her. It's all double standards. So I'm at my wits end. If I talk to the powers that be about this what do you think they would do? Speak to her about it I guess? I don't want to cause a bigger problem but I can't deal with her treating me like a 2nd class citizen anymore. This is something a company would take seriously if it comes to someone's health, correct? Because I'm about to tell her that if she doesn't chill out I will report her for this. What do you think? Wow froufrou that was pretty good for not knowing all the details. She does freak out when I'm not there leaving everyone to wonder why I can handle it without having a nervous breakdown but she can't. Good on you for pointing that out. Self serving once again on her part but it makes sense.
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Kym Kym | 8 days ago
That is awful. If I were you, I would start looking for another job immediately - for now, you tolerate, but everyday you look online and you start sending out your resume like crazy until you get some responses. You deserve much better - you do not need to tolerate this any longer! Start taking lunches and leave on time - you don't owe this woman anything...and if she fires you, chances are good you can get unemployment pay while you look for something better. Do not be afraid.
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Kym Originally Answered: Can my boss blame me for being sick... is that okay?
That is awful. If I were you, I would start looking for another job immediately - for now, you tolerate, but everyday you look online and you start sending out your resume like crazy until you get some responses. You deserve much better - you do not need to tolerate this any longer! Start taking lunches and leave on time - you don't owe this woman anything...and if she fires you, chances are good you can get unemployment pay while you look for something better. Do not be afraid.
Kym Originally Answered: Can my boss blame me for being sick... is that okay?
"I need to clarify what your expectations are. If I skip lunch and work overtime, you are unhappy if I need some personal time. When not taking personal time results in being sick and away from the office, you are 'disappointed' in me." "Please provide a written response to this (e-mail, memo, etc.) message so that I will have a hardcopy that I may refer to, if and when I need to remind myself of your specific expectations. This way, I hope that we can work together without requiring the assistance of others."

Jemima Jemima
"I need to clarify what your expectations are. If I skip lunch and work overtime, you are unhappy if I need some personal time. When not taking personal time results in being sick and away from the office, you are 'disappointed' in me." "Please provide a written response to this (e-mail, memo, etc.) message so that I will have a hardcopy that I may refer to, if and when I need to remind myself of your specific expectations. This way, I hope that we can work together without requiring the assistance of others."
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Felicia Felicia
It really depends on the internal ethics of the company you work for. Her behavior is inappropriate, but I don't know how much backing she has from those who are higher in the chain of command. It's possible that you're not the only one who would complain; perhaps you could try this. Good luck.
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Felicia Originally Answered: If your spouse or bf/gf cheated on you, would you think that they are to blame or would you blame yourself?
This question hits very close to home...as my husband recently had an emotional affair that I just discovered 2 months ago. I hadn't lasted long but it was long enough (for me) to cause much devastation to my mind and my heart. Emotionally I was crushed. Physically it affected me a great deal and it took me to a place I would NEVER want to go to again. I don't take the blame at all for what my husband did. But after the waters calmed I WAS able to sit down and LISTEN to his reasoning. And much of it was that. The lack of time we spent together (he worked 2 jobs). Him feeling alone and not needed (since I was doing everything on my own). His own ego just needing that attention that I didn't have the time / energy to always provide. In the end, though I will not take blame, I can say that I learned to UNDERSTAND why he did, though I will never AGREE with how he chose to handle it. It takes 2 people in a relationship to make it work...and if things are going the wrong way...each should learn to COMMUNICATE and talk to each OTHER, not someone else, to solve the problem. Remember to always take time for each other, talk to each other and just be together. Whether or not you have more than one job or kids or whatever...MAKE THE TIME. It's been 9 weeks for me since my discovery...and I have chosen to forgive. It's a work in progress, and it WILL take a long time, but I firmly believe that everything in life happens for a reason and this experience will only make me stronger.

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