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SURVEY FOR PARENTS: do you spank your children? is spanking child abuse?

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June 17, 2019 / By Adaline
Question: SURVEY FOR PARENTS: do you spank your children? is spanking child abuse? *Have you ever tied your children up before spanking them? * Do you take their pants off before hand, or do you just push them down? *Do you make their friends watch? *IS spanking abuse? yes or no? *if not, what are the benefits of spanking? *If yes, why do you feel that way? thanks. also, if you could state your age and your children's ages (along with their weight and height), it would be deeply appreciated. I don't have children. But, I work in a children's daycare center.
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Taegan Taegan | 10 days ago
10 reasons not to spank: 1. Hitting children teaches them to become hitters themselves. Extensive research data is now available to support a direct correlation between corporal punishment in childhood and aggressive or violent behavior in the teenage and adult years. Virtually all of the most dangerous criminals were regularly threatened and punished in childhood. It is nature's plan that children learn attitudes and behaviors through observation and imitation of their parents' actions, for good or ill. Thus it is the responsibility of parents to set an example of empathy and wisdom. 2. In many cases of so-called "bad behavior", the child is simply responding in the only way he can, given his age and experience, to neglect of basic needs. Among these needs are: proper sleep and nutrition, treatment of hidden allergy, fresh air, exercise, and sufficient freedom to explore the world around him. But his greatest need is for his parents' undivided attention. In these busy times, few children receive sufficient time and attention from their parents, who are often too distracted by their own problems and worries to treat their children with patience and empathy. It is surely wrong and unfair to punish a child for responding in a natural way to having important needs neglected. For this reason, punishment is not only ineffective in the long run, it is also clearly unjust. 3. Punishment distracts the child from learning how to resolve conflict in an effective and humane way. As the educator John Holt wrote, "When we make a child afraid, we stop learning dead in its tracks." A punished child becomes preoccupied with feelings of anger and fantasies of revenge, and is thus deprived of the opportunity to learn more effective methods of solving the problem at hand. Thus, a punished child learns little about how to handle or prevent similar situations in the future. 4. The phrase "Spare the rod and spoil the child" is not from the Bible but from Samuel Butler's "Hudibras", a 17th Century satirical poem. The poem, like his novel, The Way of All Flesh, was written to expose and denounce violence against children. While the "rod" is mentioned many times in the Bible, it is only in the Book of Proverbs that this word is used in connection with parenting. The book of Proverbs is attributed to Solomon, an extremely cruel man whose harsh methods of discipline led his own son, Rehoboam, to become a tyrannical and oppressive dictator who only narrowly escaped being stoned to death for his cruelty. In the Bible there is no support for harsh discipline outside of Solomon's Proverbs. By contrast, the writings in the Gospels, the most important books in the Bible for Christians, contain the teachings of Jesus Christ, who urged mercy, forgiveness, humility, and non-violence. Jesus saw children as being close to God, and urged love, never punishment.4 5. Punishment interferes with the bond between parent and child, as it is not human nature to feel loving toward someone who hurts us. The true spirit of cooperation which every parent desires can arise only through a strong bond based on mutual feelings of love and respect. Punishment, even when it appears to work, can produce only superficially good behavior based on fear, which can only take place until the child is old enough to resist. In contrast, cooperation based on respect will last permanently, bringing many years of mutual happiness as the child and parent grow older. 6. Many parents never learned in their own childhood that there are positive ways of relating to children. When punishment does not accomplish the desired goals, and if the parent is unaware of alternative methods, punishment can escalate to more frequent and dangerous actions against the child. 7. Anger and frustration which cannot be safely expressed by a child become stored inside; angry teenagers do not fall from the sky. Anger that has been accumulating for many years can come as a shock to parents whose child now feels strong enough to express this rage. Punishment may appear to produce "good behavior" in the early years, but always at a high price, paid by parents and by society as a whole, as the child enters adolescence and early adulthood. 8. Spanking on the buttocks, an erogenous zone in childhood, can create in the child's mind an association between pain and sexual pleasure, and lead to difficulties in adulthood. "Spanking wanted" ads in alternative newspapers attest to the sad consequences of this confusion of pain and pleasure. If a child receives little parental attention except when being punished, this will further merge the concepts of pain and pleasure in the child's mind. A child in this situation will have little self-esteem, believing he deserves nothing better. For more on this topic, see "The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children" (also in French). Even relatively moderate spanking can be physically dangerous. Blows to the lower end of the spinal column se
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Taegan Originally Answered: SURVEY FOR PARENTS: do you spank your children? is spanking child abuse?
10 reasons not to spank: 1. Hitting children teaches them to become hitters themselves. Extensive research data is now available to support a direct correlation between corporal punishment in childhood and aggressive or violent behavior in the teenage and adult years. Virtually all of the most dangerous criminals were regularly threatened and punished in childhood. It is nature's plan that children learn attitudes and behaviors through observation and imitation of their parents' actions, for good or ill. Thus it is the responsibility of parents to set an example of empathy and wisdom. 2. In many cases of so-called "bad behavior", the child is simply responding in the only way he can, given his age and experience, to neglect of basic needs. Among these needs are: proper sleep and nutrition, treatment of hidden allergy, fresh air, exercise, and sufficient freedom to explore the world around him. But his greatest need is for his parents' undivided attention. In these busy times, few children receive sufficient time and attention from their parents, who are often too distracted by their own problems and worries to treat their children with patience and empathy. It is surely wrong and unfair to punish a child for responding in a natural way to having important needs neglected. For this reason, punishment is not only ineffective in the long run, it is also clearly unjust. 3. Punishment distracts the child from learning how to resolve conflict in an effective and humane way. As the educator John Holt wrote, "When we make a child afraid, we stop learning dead in its tracks." A punished child becomes preoccupied with feelings of anger and fantasies of revenge, and is thus deprived of the opportunity to learn more effective methods of solving the problem at hand. Thus, a punished child learns little about how to handle or prevent similar situations in the future. 4. The phrase "Spare the rod and spoil the child" is not from the Bible but from Samuel Butler's "Hudibras", a 17th Century satirical poem. The poem, like his novel, The Way of All Flesh, was written to expose and denounce violence against children. While the "rod" is mentioned many times in the Bible, it is only in the Book of Proverbs that this word is used in connection with parenting. The book of Proverbs is attributed to Solomon, an extremely cruel man whose harsh methods of discipline led his own son, Rehoboam, to become a tyrannical and oppressive dictator who only narrowly escaped being stoned to death for his cruelty. In the Bible there is no support for harsh discipline outside of Solomon's Proverbs. By contrast, the writings in the Gospels, the most important books in the Bible for Christians, contain the teachings of Jesus Christ, who urged mercy, forgiveness, humility, and non-violence. Jesus saw children as being close to God, and urged love, never punishment.4 5. Punishment interferes with the bond between parent and child, as it is not human nature to feel loving toward someone who hurts us. The true spirit of cooperation which every parent desires can arise only through a strong bond based on mutual feelings of love and respect. Punishment, even when it appears to work, can produce only superficially good behavior based on fear, which can only take place until the child is old enough to resist. In contrast, cooperation based on respect will last permanently, bringing many years of mutual happiness as the child and parent grow older. 6. Many parents never learned in their own childhood that there are positive ways of relating to children. When punishment does not accomplish the desired goals, and if the parent is unaware of alternative methods, punishment can escalate to more frequent and dangerous actions against the child. 7. Anger and frustration which cannot be safely expressed by a child become stored inside; angry teenagers do not fall from the sky. Anger that has been accumulating for many years can come as a shock to parents whose child now feels strong enough to express this rage. Punishment may appear to produce "good behavior" in the early years, but always at a high price, paid by parents and by society as a whole, as the child enters adolescence and early adulthood. 8. Spanking on the buttocks, an erogenous zone in childhood, can create in the child's mind an association between pain and sexual pleasure, and lead to difficulties in adulthood. "Spanking wanted" ads in alternative newspapers attest to the sad consequences of this confusion of pain and pleasure. If a child receives little parental attention except when being punished, this will further merge the concepts of pain and pleasure in the child's mind. A child in this situation will have little self-esteem, believing he deserves nothing better. For more on this topic, see "The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children" (also in French). Even relatively moderate spanking can be physically dangerous. Blows to the lower end of the spinal column se

Peers Peers
I am not a 'hitter.' Frankly, I can tolerate a 'swat' if a child reaches for something on a hot stove; or reaches into a fan. However...I am concerned that a lot of questions on Y/A are from S&M-type folks who 'get off' on bare-bottom spankings of their children. That is not good! Get your spouse to consent to a 'bare bottom spanking.' If your spouse enjoys it; and you 'get off' on it; then everybody is happy! And you do not have to involve a small child in your "pleasure!" The small child will appreciate this, as well!
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Louis Louis
Yes, I believe in spanking. I did with my kids who are going to be 29 next month. We have a soon-to-be 7 year old grandson who weighs between 55 and 60 pounds. I see nothing wrong with pulling down his pants, but didn't the one time I spanked him 3 years ago. It's not abuse. Only misinformed or misguided people think it is. Spankings teach a child or minor to behave properly. Spankings help the culprit to better remember the offense. I've always used spankings sparingly. My kids soon realized that if one of them were spanked, then the offense or situation was a serious one. You see, a constant string of minor offenses could lead to a spanking to adjust his/her attitude. My kids grew up just fine. One is an engineer and the other is a lawyer. Both were honor students and earned scholarships to college.
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Jaylon Jaylon
since law says it is an abuse, the kids will consider their parents so hearing the law..as the law gives call line to kids where to call. the kids will consider their parents as if they do an abuse.but actually it isn't . according to the bible parents are even recomanded to spank their children if they don't listen,because children will be safe in the future so..on..will listen to God..if a parents spanks the kid is doesn't mean he doesn't love the kid on the contrary it means he loves him /her very much, he is counscient that the child must become a good person and responsible and respect the other and respect the law and have a safe life... so since we are not alolowed to spank the child..i am called''stupid and cow ''by my daugheter of 12..what she heard from around...and is better to spank the child then not to give him money etc..i guess..spanking is smth historicall..God gave ..while not giving the child money..or buying what he needs or like..maybe means the child will hate me..i am a mild person i hate spanking but my daugheter had a diffferent kind of personality reseambling my husband ..and learning from him..who is a man..and she is a girl..and i love her a lot a kiss her feet ..but she behaved so bed..toward iportant persons and myself that as if God took my mind i spanked her in the back like an ordinary poor man...and is better to spank the child more often and not very heavy..then loose mind keeping in yourself having nothing to do..and spank him too hard once..as my husbvand also did ..and she said it would have been better if the bear would swallow her..i also heard from a taxy driver that he spanked his daugheter who was around 18
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Galen Galen
do you spank your children? - NEVER! is spanking child abuse? - it depends on how hard you spank them and if its a normal little spank then no it is not *Have you ever tied your children up before spanking them? - NOO! that would be child abuse! * Do you take their pants off before hand, or do you just push them down?- i do not recommend smanking your child i got smanked and it tortured me for years *Do you make their friends watch?- NOOO... *IS spanking abuse? yes or no? depends *if not, what are the benefits of spanking? None *If yes, why do you feel that way? thanks. also, if you could state your age and your children's ages (along with their weight and height), it would be deeply appreciated. I have 5 children girl- 1 year old girl- 5 year old girl- 1 year old boy- 6 boy - 3 and a half all never been smanked all i do to punish is you a naughty step and keep them on there until they say sorry and behave although i dont really need to use it as they are as good as gold, and my twin girls with have the same rule !
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Derek Derek
What kind of questions are these? Are you a sadomasochist? Does the thought of bringing pain to children thrill you? No I don't spank my children. I do not believe in spanking my children. We always teach our kids not to hit, so why do I get to spank them in anger or fear? What does that teach them? That its okay for me and not for them? I think spanking is violent and dangerous. I think that you could really hurt a child when you are that angry with them. I am an adult, a parent and there are more mature ways to deal with a child's misbehavior then belting them one on the a**. I do not want to see the pain in my child's eyes that was caused by me because they made me so angry. Spanking is too much of a control tactic. My daughter is 7 and I have never spanked her. My son is 17 months old and I have never spanked him. My children listen very well, without ever having spanked them. My kids are the way that they are because of their parents. Thus creating very well behaved kids.
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Benji Benji
To Katie T... I was spanked as a child, and I am fine. When my parents spanked me, it was just a hard pat on the butt, and I realized that what I did was bad. I am not an angry teen, I am not severely messed up, I am actually normal! One time my mom spanked me because in the car I wouldn't stay seated and buckled up. I did it countless times, and all she could do was spank me because I wasn't listening. There was a greater safety hazard if she didn't spank me than if she did. It can be taken too far though..
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Abe Abe
* No. * Neither * Never * No, not unless it is done for the pleasure or internment of the parent-? * Spanking is to teach the child that there behavior is unacceptable. Not to teach your child is child abuse. They should be talked to first and should understand what is OK and what is not. Believe me, someone will teach them. I am 76 yrs. old. Both my son and doughtier got there's when it was needed. My son is 6 ft. 5" 220 lbs. A minister of the gospel as is his son. My doughtier 56 yrs. is 2 yrs older. has always conducted herself as a lady and is a stay at home mom of a handicapped child.. Hope that helps.
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Shona Shona
Tying your children up? Making their friends watch. you are SICK. Enjoy your time with your children, because they will never speak to you again when they are grown up. Are you that Texas judge that beat the crap out of his daughter? Or are you Adrian Peterson?
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Shona Originally Answered: Why does the court system not remove my children from child support even after they are beyond age limit?
Does it come out of your wages? If so, give your payroll office a copy of the wage order and highlight where it ends when they turn 18 or graduate from high school.

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