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URGENT HELP. UN STABLE HOME. 10 points.?

URGENT HELP. UN STABLE HOME. 10 points.? Topic: Business plan for life coaching
June 25, 2019 / By Theodore
Question: I need help with this serious question. Okay so i'm 13 years old. And I act very mature got my age because all the stuff life has taken me through has made me a very strong and mature teenager. I live in a home where my dad is never home. And when he is I barley see him. He drinks. He also is sighned up for sugardaddy.com. I'm sure you all know what sugar daddies are. He sleeps with girls every weekend mostly. I have pictures of his texts, some read about makeup sex. Others about him waking up hard every morning. And others which aren't very appropriate for this site. Telling you that i'm trying to say he is very sexually active. He brings home girls and sleeps with them when i'm in my room upstairs. He has also slept with my volleyball coach multiple times. He also told me that he thinks I get in his business. Sometimes he will tell me not to come home past a certain time and one time I did and he brought the girl to a hotel. He yells at me and screams at me almost everyday I see him. He makes me cry all the time. I'm very uncetain I want to live there anymore. It is also hard knowing that I live with my brother and my dad and I'm the only girl around the house. There are also pictures on his phone which I would not like to explain over yahoo answers. I have gotten letters in the mail from anonymous people telling me that they think he sexually abuses me. (Which he doesn't but I can see where people could see him doing that knowing how sexually active he is.) He makes me feel so small in this big world. Also, my mom left me around 2010. She left for a guy who had money and we don't get along at all and I don't plan to see her for awhile. She never told me she was getting married I found out on pictures on facebook. I live with my grandparents mostly when my dad isn't around. There is also someone at school who I tell all my problems too and makes me feel so happy and special when I talk to her. She takes the place of both my parents because my parents are never there for me. I would love to be adopted by her but I don't know if thats possible. That would literally mean the world to me. I would if I could. And I would tell her. But I think that would be embarrassing. I've never felt so loved by anyone before. She makes it so I would rather be at school all day rather than at home. Please tell me if you think my home is stable for me or not. Because I don't think I really feel safe anymore. *CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO OR SHOULD I TALK TO SOMEONE OR SHOULD I TELL MY TEACHER HOW I FEEL* Thanks for your time. It really means a lot.
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Prosper Prosper | 9 days ago
You need to tell someone, teachers are usually trained in ways to deal with these types of situations. Or your guidance counselor. Do your grand parents know what your situation is like at home? Maybe you should tell them if they dont know. It is a very unstable home, and you shouldnt be there. Telling someone what you shared here will result in you being removed from the home, which is the best thing for you. Im sorry to hear of this, it makes me very angry .... I hope you get all the love and attention you need from somebody. Hang in there.
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Prosper Originally Answered: URGENT HELP. UN STABLE HOME. 10 points.?
You need to tell someone, teachers are usually trained in ways to deal with these types of situations. Or your guidance counselor. Do your grand parents know what your situation is like at home? Maybe you should tell them if they dont know. It is a very unstable home, and you shouldnt be there. Telling someone what you shared here will result in you being removed from the home, which is the best thing for you. Im sorry to hear of this, it makes me very angry .... I hope you get all the love and attention you need from somebody. Hang in there.

Malcolm Malcolm
Hi, Your dad and mum split up... that's not your fault, but it's not your dad's fault either... sometimes a sexual relationship grows apart and that's life. Your father is an adult and he quite obviously is holding back some of his concerns from you. It's quite likely that he is seeking female company, and that is obvious from your exploration of his phone. It really is quite wrong of you to snoop you know. I mean, his sexual relationships are not your concern, just as, in future when you're an independent adult, your sexual relationships are not his. This doesn't change your status as a person he loves. Talk to him. tell him your concerns... stop snooping on his phone as he is concerned for his life and his future, as well as yours. Can you imagine how happy his future will be without a lover in it? He has the same dreams for love as you do, or will. Let him follow his instincts without interference. As for the drinking... that's a symptom of unhappiness. He will come around... if he finds a permanent lover that is likely to happen sooner rather than later. Your home is not particularly unstable. You have a house to live in, somewhere safe to go, you have a brother and you have food, and you have a father who loves you but has some signs of depression... try and help him by speaking openly about your concerns rather than turning to strangers for an outside opinion. I hope you find your way.
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Jerahmiel Jerahmiel
The woman whom you are confiding in has not reported your father to Child Protective Services yet then I have to question how unstable your home is. Your father is not having sex in front of you he is doing it in private. You are a minor child under his roof and you have no right invading his privacy by taking pictures of his text messages. That behavior does not show maturity. Your father has to work to provide a roof over your head so he should not be home unless he can work from home. Many kids have the same complaint "Dad is never home." If you believe you are in an unstable home you can contact a school counselor or Child Protective Services and request a home visit. You can also call your mother with your complaints and ask her to go live with her.
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Gerard Gerard
Hi. You sound like a good kid in a bad situation. Your dad is irresponsible and hasn't grown up. Clearly he refuses to grow up and be the responsible parent he should be. To be fair, it may be a reaction to being newly single since your mom left (but that's more of an excuse - not a justification). It sounds to me like your home is unstable. It sounds to me like both of your parents are fairly self-absorbed and not very responsible. It also sounds to me like you have a good head on your shoulders which means you might be able to not have this crappy situation destroy your life. Here's the reality of the situation. In 5 years, you will be an adult who can leave the house and be on your own. Your parents probably won't change by the time you turn 18. They probably won't realize until you are 40 what kind of jerks they are being now. So you need to grow stronger. You need to learn the lessons in life that your parents aren't learning. This will make you vastly more successful and happy in life than your parents when you reach their age. I'm not going to sugar coat it for you, your road is going to be hard. But if you stay true to yourself, the difficulty will just make you stronger and stronger and by the time you are older, you will be amazing.
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Dismas Dismas
Unstable. Frequent sexual partners are not really something you want to see when you have children. It may not be abusing you particularly, buut it will ultimately make you untrusting of men when you enter a point of your live where you want to be sexually active. I firstly would talk to your mom even though you don't get along. If you want legal permission, having it from your biological parent is a good idea. Tell her about your father and how you feel uncomfortable living there and that you want to live with your grandparents. If she doesnt hear reason, then you should talk to a teacher or councilour. Everyone has the right to feel comfortable in their own home. Do not discuss it with your Dad right now. You run the risk of him stopping bringing girls home and turning his attention elsewhere.
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Bobby Bobby
You can request that you and your brother be removed from that situation. Feel free to connect on Facebook (Torah Walker) if you need more help
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Acton Acton
If you really feel like you're not safe , then you should tell your counselor at school .. Seriously . . If they see that your father is in no condition to take care of children , then the state could legally place you in a foster home , and your brother as well. Good luck.
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Stacy Stacy
Wow. That's a lot. I would recommend both. Your dad is probably considered abusive (even if it isn't sexual, he is neglecting you). He could be taken away for that. Yeah, I would recommend you talk to someone and tell a teacher. They are legally obligated to report stuff like that.
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Stacy Originally Answered: I'm twenty years old and engaged to a wonderful man. We're financially stable and want a baby. Too soon?
Well, you sound responsible, which is a good thing; however, I'd recommend waiting until you finish college. I know you want a baby now, but being in school and being pregnant, or w/ a newborn is very difficult and stressful. What will you do if you have a term paper due, or an exam and your in bed with 24 hour ''morning'' sickness, or later on when the baby has colic and is screaming non stop? Also, I know you said you have the money, but don't forget that buying a home is expensive, and so are doctor bills (for pregnancy) and a new baby. (I don't know if you also have college bills or loans to pay off.)

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