What makes a good sister? Should i break contact with my brother?
Topic: Sorry with the sisters
July 20, 2019 / By Jera Question:
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I'm a 15 year old girl with a 20 year old brother ( he's my only sibling )
I can't help feeling like i've been a bad sister to him.
He's always been nice to me and since the day i was born he's been there for me throughout everything. Basically, he's the best brother anyone could have. Sometimes i think that he shouldn't be my brother because he deserves so much better. My mum should have had another child after me. For his sake. He makes so much effort to get on with me. He tells me he loves me, but i don't see how he can. I often wonder whether he just puts up with me because i'm his sister and there's nothing he can do/say to change that, but then why would he make so much effort with me ? I hate myself for the way i've treated him. He's moving out soon ( his girlfriend's pregnant ) and i'm going to miss him so much. He said that we're still going to see each-other all the time etc but i've been thinking, when he moves out, should i break contact with him and let him lead his own life ? Would that make him happy ? I would ask him, but i know what he'll say. He'll say i'm being silly and that he loves me, but i can't help thinking he's just saying that out of politeness.
Reemee: I thought it might be what he wants. Perhaps when he moves out he would prefer a fresh start ( a life without having to see me ) but he doesn't want to say so because he's kind and doesn't want to cause any trouble.
Best Answers: What makes a good sister? Should i break contact with my brother?
Flo | 7 days ago
Are you honestly considering breaking contact with him after you just said how horrible you have been to him and how he has been trying to make it work? Wouldn't that just make it worse? I think you should stop feeling sorry for yourself and grow up and be a supportive sibling. That's the only way you can make it up.
You're brother and sister, it's so silly that you would even say that you're thinking about what he wants. He's 20 he's going to have a family soon and it sounds like he's matured.Like I said get over yourself and don't put even more pressure on your brother. He's going to miss you but now he has bigger things to worry about. Like I said be supportive hence be a good sister.
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Originally Answered: My brother tried to commit suicide, what should we expect now as far as being able to contact him?
First - how old is your brother?
If he is of age, it will be very difficult to find out any information from the hospital - They are not allowed to give out information about a patient.(There are strict laws governing people with psychiatric conditions.)
Maybe, your brother only wants his dad to know what is going on with him. The hospital has to respect your brothers wishes.
Would you be able to talk to his dad and find out more about the situation?
Sometimes, you might have to wait until your brother contacts you and if he okays your visit you would
be allowed to see him.
With mental illness - a lot of information is difficult to obtain, when the person is of age.
I think you are able to write him if you can find out his address,
I don't think they can refuse him receiving mail.
I have been through this with one of my children and, beleive me,
you come across a lot of brick walls.(my child was of legal age)
Usually, a patient is very uncooperative , at first, and then after awhile they start to agree to treatment.
You might have to wait until he becomes more agreeable to seeing his family and initiating contact with you.
Maybe you will receive more answers about what lies ahead.
I wish you Good Luck and Don't Give up Hope at helping your brother.
It sounds as you really care!
When he wants to contact you, let him know you care.
It sounds as if your family has everything deadlocked.
Is the communication pretty non-existent? If you could somehow, talk to his father and just say you would like to send him a card - at least you would be able to tell our brother your new address and phone number, then it would be up to your brother to initiate contact with y ou.
You other sister - can't you try to see if she will give you , at least his address.
it might really help your brother to know that he has a lot of love an support from his family at this difficult time.
I bet everything I have on his love for you. I've got a brother, too. He's 4 years older than me, and he's my only sibling. He never said that he loves me, never in my life (until now) have I heard that sentences from him. But everything he has done makes me believe in his love for me. He was willing to stay in my home country, to give me a chance to study abroad. He allowed me to be in relationship with his best friend. He picks me up at the airport everytime I come back home, even when my flight is in the midnight. I feel his love for me, even I can't hear it by my ears.
Nothing called politeness in love between brothers and sisters! I swear that your brother definitely loves you. He's just moving out because he's in harsh time and harsh situation, he doesn't want you to see how depressed he would be.(No brother in this world wants his sister to see him in bad mood) Of course that nothing can change the truth you're his sister :) But I believe he never wants to change it even if he could. He's happy to be your brother. You did say he had been nice to you and been there for you throughout everytime, didn't you? Only love can let him do that!
Well, finally I want to tell you, keep saving and loving your brother.Don't break contact with him! As what you've said about him, he's really a precious gift of God that you're deserved to recieve in your life. You're a nice and perceptive girl, you love your brother. Please be a wonderful sister by letting him know that you're willing to stick with him through thick and thin of your life, and his also!
I hope I could help you feel better, nice girl. :)
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Why would you break contact with your brother? He loves you cause you are his sister, and nothing can change that. If you want to do anything to help him out then be a better sister to him.
Breaking contact would just be silly and really quite unreasonable, you are family and have to see each other at functions. Change your attitude towards him and who knows maybe him moving out will do it for you. Love your brother, he is the only one you have.
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You are too young to be thinking into these things so much. He still loves you even if your nasty because he remembers being 15 and having all that pent up emotion. lol Don't break contact with him family is the most important part of your life. and trust me your relationship will be GREAT in 3 years or so. Get a lot closer with your family when your an adult.
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You are pathetic those two other girls are right, it's call about you. Poor brother of yours. He is moving out about to start a family of his own and you are going to stop talking to him instead of helping him with this big step. What are you going to do when he has the baby? Are you going to ignore it? That would make him so "happy"
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You are blessed to have a brother who cares for you in that way. Do not lose contact with him but allow him to be a significant other and father. He will always be your brother. Love yourself so you can accept his unconditional love.
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Originally Answered: Who would I need to contact through the school to speak to about the amount of homework my brother has?
In a competitive and high pressure school district, this seems about normal; at least about this level is what my brothers are doing (and I remember doing). If you want to complain, you should talk to the school principal or the superintendent, but don't expect anything to change. More work at a younger age seems to be the national (and international) trend as the economy develops globally.