Originally Answered: Advice for going to high school?
Be especially outgoing at first. Though freshmen in high school aren't quite as outgoing as freshmen on a college campus, you should still try your hardest to be friendly before people fall into their normal social circles and are less open to meeting someone new. So, say hi to the girl in your French class, be friendly with your new lab partner, and get to know the people in your home room -- you may be sitting next to them for the next four years, after all. •Get to know the people in your gym class. You may not run in to some of them academically.
•Get to know the people whose lockers are next to yours.
•Make new friends with people who sit at your lunch table.
•If someone invites you out to the mall or to a party, don't be shy. Try to accept as many invitations as you can as long as they sound fun.
Try out different social groups. Though you may be worried about finding the place and group where you really fit in right away, you should explore your options as much as you can. There will be the popular kids, the nerds, the cool nerds, the jocks, the stoners, and all of the other groups you may come to expect -- but you don't have to neatly fit into one category. Don't jump to conclusions and get to know as many people as you can first. •Though many people do remain friends with the same social group throughout high school, social dynamics and circumstances do change. If you find that your new social group isn't the right fit for you after a few months but made no effort to get to know anyone else, then you'll be out of luck.
•Being as involved as you can in a variety of clubs and sports can help you broaden your horizons and meet as many people as possible.
•Though it's important to be open-minded, try avoiding the kind of people who will get you in to trouble by making you smoke, cut class, or cheat on tests.
Avoid dating for a while. Though you may have met your dream lover in your first period physical science class, you should hold off before you start sending him any love notes. If you get wrapped up in a high school relationship right away, you won't have time to branch out, make friends, and figure out what the heck actually makes you happy. Also, let's face it: 98% of high school relationships don't last, so you could put yourself in an awkward situation when you break up and all you have are mutual friends. •And if you do date, be smart. Don't do anything that you're not comfortable with, and make sure to be savvy about sexual education.
Attend your school's social events. Though you may think you're too cool to go to the school dance or the Homecoming game, you should definitely make an appearance to make some new friends and for people to know who the heck you are. The drama kids may not go to a football game and the jocks may not go to the school play, but if you go to both, you'll be meeting more people and realizing that high school can actually have a lot to offer. •You don't have to go to everything. But in the first few months, make a point of going to as many events as you can before you get a sense of what you really like.
Don't obsess over your image. This may sound like it's nearly impossible during your first year of high school, but you should remember that everyone is obsessing over what people think, over how popular they are, over how they look in their new pair of shoes, and so on. Remember that everyone is feeling just as insecure and uncertain as you are, and be one step of the pack by understanding that none of it matters. •Don't spend more time staring in the mirror than you spend reading a textbook.
•Though looking nice will make you feel good about yourself, spending all of your time obsessing over new clothes will not.
•Even if you're not feeling confident, you can look confident. Walk with your head high and look straight ahead, instead of crossing your arms and slouching.
Do your homework. This should be obvious, but it isn't. Don't do your homework on the bus on the morning of school, or in homeroom, either. Take the time to diligently do your homework right after school, in study hall, or when you get home after extra-curricular activities. Make sure that you really get it done instead of just doing the bare minimum and forgetting key information. •And if you're struggling with your homework, don't be embarrassed to get extra help after school.
Get organized. The everything folder won't fly in high school, so make sure you have binders for every subject, multiple notebooks, and folders for every class. Label each folder carefully, and go through your things at the end of every day to make sure that you haven't misplaced any papers. •Part of being organized is having an organized locker. Make sure your books are neatly stacked in it, not sloppily thrown in.
•Have a planner. This will help you know in advance when you'll have a busy week and to plan ahead for tests and other events.