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How do you move on from a guy who has treated me well, but has lots of baggage?

How do you move on from a guy who has treated me well, but has lots of baggage? Topic: How to write a quitting job letter
June 16, 2019 / By Abishag
Question: This guy I fell for was a co worker. He would always go out of his way to make me smile, and laugh. He quit the job, *he's went through a divorce 2 years ago *lost his parent earlier this year *is now recovering from addiction. I wrote him, telling him I missed him at work, and that he always helped make bad days better with laughter. He wrote back thanking me, saying my letter made his day. He then said I'll do go with what vocation I get into, and he hopes to visit someday. I asked if he needed anyone to talk to, I'll be there, but he pushed me away. He never wrote back, that was 3 weeks ago. I haven't seen him for maybe a month? So I feel I need to move on, but it's like I am very depressed over it. I don't understand why he treated me earlier with love and compassion, but then just pushed me away. I miss him so much, but I don't whether moving on is helping me. We were never in a relationship. He always thought I didn't like him, he is insecure. I don't know what to do, how to handle it. We weren't that close, but he touched my heart like no other guy has. I believe everyone has baggage. I'm just having a hard time moving on since he is such a nice, honest, sweet guy. I find it already hard for guys to compare. Most the guys I meet don't have his heart, or cared for me, for the little amount of time we knew each other. I know this is unhealthy thinking no guy can compare. I just don't know how to handle it. I saw his flaws, but I see the beautiful human being he is behind all the hurt. How do I know it's time to move on, or is it now?
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Swithin Swithin | 3 days ago
The time to move on is now. You offered your support and he didn't respond, either he doesn't need it or he doesn't want it. He knows how to reach you, if he wants to make contact he will. Don't waste your time waiting around for him; he may never show up.
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Pat Pat
move on? there is nothing to move on from - u never even had a relationship. quit living in a dream world, get a life. a real one. and quit attaching yourself at every male u encounter. because it will scare the hell out of them
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Pat Originally Answered: My 2 roommates make lots of noise. I asked them to stop & they accused me of being rude & to move. Please help?
This sounds like you are in an unfair situation. Without a way out. You can not withhold the utility money. that will be a case you would loose.But you can try talking to landlord, because if it is an apartment building , there is the possibility other tenants could complain about the noise., Maybe he, or she , would be understanding of your problem,& tell your roommates, they are getting complaints from others in the building, & if it continues the cops will be called. & possibly Your name can be left out of that. reducing friction within your home. By them thinking it is coming from someone else. & you can get some work done.& Sleep! Whatever you decide to do Good Luck to you.
Pat Originally Answered: My 2 roommates make lots of noise. I asked them to stop & they accused me of being rude & to move. Please help?
I have gone through the same thing as you. I'm also a grad student so I can really appreciate having an overwhelming work load and being broke all at the same time. I'm still in amazement that I volunteered for this. It's going to be difficult, but you need to trim back your spending and start putting that money away toward a new security deposit on a new place. It will be a sacrifice for a short while, but the money will add up quick enough if you're good about saving it. The bottom line is you need to get out, find your own place, and no more roommates! I know it's hard to be on your own financially but resist the urge to take others into your home, even if they are grad students too. I have found living with other grad students to not be much better than living with someone just out of high school and people in different programs have different work requirements so they still may be not as busy as you. This is a very important time for you and you need to be able to focus if you're going to achieve the goals you set forth for yourself. Shop around, you'll find an apartment that you can afford just keep looking. It's better for you to live alone than it is to splurge on little luxuries. Grad school doesn't last forever, remember that. In the meantime, don't be so nice to these girls. Being roommates puts you under no obligation to be their friends. And it seems like these girls' priorities are a little screwed up so you probably don't want to be friends with them anyway. If they start to give you crap, give it right back. You might find it therapeutic to release some of that frustration anyhow. Most people are full of lip only until they get an earful themselves, so they'll back down eventually and by then you'll be hitting the door! Best of luck to you.

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