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Is this wrong to hate my mother?

Is this wrong to hate my mother? Topic: How to write a hate letter to your dad
July 17, 2019 / By Finbar
Question: I really cannot stand her, it seems like all she cares about is her own self.She used to gossip about me to her friends, and say very hurtful things about me, how bad i look and she hates me.She also stuck a knife in my face and thretened me when i was 16, then my dad came home she started crying and told him to beat me.Well now i am pregnant, and she seems to care more about this baby then me, she is also a pill popper.She forgets more and more, loses EVERYTHING, i dunno if the pill popping or alsimers(sorry if wrong spelling), she's even been weird towards my father.I really don't feel like she's my mother, i see my grandmother more as my mom.She is always there for me and is very caring unlike my real mom! SHe's very slow in the head, i really hate that! Is it wrong of me to hate her, and not want my baby around her too much when he's born? PS- she still gossips about me, and gives away all my misshaps to her ''dear friends'' who mean more to her than her own family.
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Dannie Dannie | 5 days ago
yes it's wrong to hate your family . but since she doesn't treat you really well i guess you can't help but feel that way about her. it is what is if you don't want her in your life you should write her a letter telling her how you fell and how it hurts you that your relationship is so awful. no one wants to have a reason to hate their mother. good luck =D sorry about your situation
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Dannie Originally Answered: Is this wrong to hate my mother?
yes it's wrong to hate your family . but since she doesn't treat you really well i guess you can't help but feel that way about her. it is what is if you don't want her in your life you should write her a letter telling her how you fell and how it hurts you that your relationship is so awful. no one wants to have a reason to hate their mother. good luck =D sorry about your situation
Dannie Originally Answered: Is this wrong to hate my mother?
You don't have to feel that you have to automatically love your mother if she has been abusive towards you. Although you owe her a debt of life, this doesn't mean beating yourself up about a relationship which she basically is tearing apart. I would be concerned about having a baby around someone who has been violent for obvious reasons which have nothing to do with her relationship to that baby. If she has mental conditions then she needs to be seen by a qualified doctor who can prescribe something for her. Is there no way for a temporary period you could not live with your grandmother? It seems less traumatic that way, or in a refuge for young unmarried mothers? Your mother has to earn your love, like everyone else. Don't feel that you have to provide this despite her behaviour.

Aymery Aymery
You don't have to feel that you have to automatically love your mother if she has been abusive towards you. Although you owe her a debt of life, this doesn't mean beating yourself up about a relationship which she basically is tearing apart. I would be concerned about having a baby around someone who has been violent for obvious reasons which have nothing to do with her relationship to that baby. If she has mental conditions then she needs to be seen by a qualified doctor who can prescribe something for her. Is there no way for a temporary period you could not live with your grandmother? It seems less traumatic that way, or in a refuge for young unmarried mothers? Your mother has to earn your love, like everyone else. Don't feel that you have to provide this despite her behaviour.
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Vonnie Vonnie
its not rlly so much as wrong tht you want to keep the baby from your mom. but did you ever consider tht maybe there is something mentally wrong with your mom... i don't like my mom bc she calls me a liar, when i know im telling the truth, and she calls me fat, she whould rather be around my oldest sister who looks like my mom and is pregnant... my mom is bipolar, and is losing her hair... so i sorta know where your coming from just not in those bad situations you were in. but i would seriously look it up about disorders...
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Vonnie Originally Answered: I absolutely HATE my mother! She makes me want to kill myself! What do I do?
You do not say how old you are but would hazard a guess and think you are in your teens or early twenties. Growing up can be very painful for a lot of youngsters and being a parent of a youngster can be a nightmare so this nothing new. Parents are given no guidelines on how to be a parent let alone a good one and so it is, they do make mistakes - I know I did and many of them. It is through trial-and-error that we parents try to bring our children up as best as we can and hope they will turn into decent adults. What about using some of your savings and buying her a nice bunch of flowers? Get her a nice card with decent words inside and then write in it "to Mom with much love and then your name". Just give it to her with a smile. If she asks you why you are doing this, you can tell her you thought she would enjoy the gift and because you love her. It is important you try and defuse the situation by showing you love and respect her. It is important too to be gentle with her in your voice and behaviour. Another think you can suggest is you go out for a coffee and do a bit of window-shopping. Or go for a walk and talk to one another like two intelligent human beings and not as mother and daughter. Look at this situation from your mother's angle too. It could be she has things on her mind, she may be unhappy in herself, she may be tired - it can be a number of many things. You can defuse the situation by being helpful at home - do the washing-up after meals or help with the cooking or keeping your room clean and tidy. Growing up is a painful time and being a parent is not easy either so if you can show your Mom you do care and that you want the two of you to talk like two intelligent people, then you are half way there. Talking about committing suicide is silly and solves nothing nor does going to the police either - they will send you home feeling rather silly I expect. You make no mention of your Dad but perhaps you have another member of the family with whom you can share your difficulties and seek their guidance and advice if necessary. Good luck...........

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