Originally Answered: Why do we have too identify as lesbian, bi, gay or straight? Why can't we just fall in love with anyone?
Amen! I've been asking this question for years, and for the past year have been answering questions here about this subject in hopes of opening some people's eyes.
We do NOT need to label ourselves. Look at all the questions here from self-tortured people who are desperately trying to figure out what to call their sexuality. One minute it's one gender they like, and the next day it's the other. Or they yammer on and on about how they find their own gender attractive but they don't want to be homosexual. And of course, a lot of these askers are in puberty, so the whole hormonal confusion isn't helping matters.
My advice to them is always to stop struggling to pick the supposedly "perfect" label to slap on themselves, just live their lives day-to-day, pursue happiness as they see fit, and let others draw their own conclusions about them.
I'm a 100% gay male. I was born this way -- I wasn't tempted, or molested, or coerced, or seduced, or even offered fabulous prizes. I simply was attracted to the same sex from childhood. I was a bit confused at first, but when I found out the term was "homosexual" I was mostly fine with it. I had kind of an innate wisdom about it -- when I was eleven or so, I knew that I didn't need to be ashamed of being born the way I was born, and I didn't need to explain it to anyone. As a result, I never officially "came out" to anyone. The only I'm I've said "I'm gay" to someone is when they've asked for clarification.
Frankly, I sometimes take offense at people who yammer about how it's important for all gay people to come out. Why? Though I never made a big, dramatic announcement to my family or friends, they all know I'm gay because I've simply lived my life and let others draw their own conclusions about me. I'm not in the closet in any way, but I'm also not a poster child for being gay. I look at it this way -- if straight folks don't need to publicly announce their sexual orientation, then why the hell should I have to announce mine? I literally would feel foolish if I introduced myself to someone as, "Hello, my name is ____, and I'm gay."